Tips For Raising Twins
Raising a child is not an easy job, and when the job is doubled- you are bound to feel overwhelmed! But don’t stress mom and dad, it also means double the happiness and memories, and what initially might feel like a mammoth task, will eventually become a piece of cake, and also one of the most beautiful experiences of your life.
And we’re here to make your life easier with a few easy tips to raise your tiny tots:
Find Your Tribe
It always helps talking to other parents who have experience. Reach out to people through social media, forums, etc. Research, Read, Repeat, till you have internally made peace with the fact that the initial few months won’t be easy, but in the end, it’s totally worth it!
Set A Routine
Planning the day in advance is one of the best things you can do to reduce the chaos. Set a daily routine which needs to be followed at all costs. If one wakes up, make sure the other one wakes up too. This may seem like a daunting task at first, but once they get used to the routine, your life will get a lot easier!
It’s always better to start feeding them individually, so you can gauge their individual eating patterns and appetite. Once they’re both comfortable with the breastfeeding process, and when you think you’re ready, you can switch to feeding both of them at the same time- this is called Tandem Style of breast feeding, and will save you a lot of time! Read up a little in advance so you can try various things before figuring out what works best for you.
It might take some time to master this, but it’s not impossible! For your convenience, create two separate disposal systems and label them with your little ones’ names. This way, you won’t have to constantly keep track of whose diaper you last changed.
Acknowledge Their Individual Identity
This is very important. Don’t perpetually refer to them as ‘The Twins’ and make sure the same is practiced throughout your family and friend circle. Acknowledge their individual personalities to help them grow into their original selves. They may have a ton of similarities, features and preferences, but there will always be something to distinguish.
Comparison Is A Big No-No
In addition to the earlier point, don’t compare their differences, rather celebrate them! You cannot expect your twins to have the same qualities. There’s no such thing as “the smarter one” or “the more talented one”, creating your own identity is difficult enough, when there’s another person who probably looks just like you. Don’t encourage comparison, this can break their confidence. Let them stand out and know they’re both special in their own ways!
Spend One-on-One Time With ThemA lot of parents forget this. They come in a pair, but they don’t always want divided attention. Spend quality time with them individually, get to know them better, you may end up realizing they’re not all that similar! Feel no guilt in showering extra love and attention to either one of them on some days! Give them different gifts, make their favorite foods to show that you care about their individual likes and dislikes. Small gestures like these, go a long way!
Don’t Be Hard On Yourself
You’re human. You’re allowed to make mistakes and those mistakes will help you do better! It’s not an easy job being a parent, and there may be times when you ask yourself if you’re doing a decent job…It’s okay if you struggle to tell them apart sometimes, it’s okay if you’re having one of those days when you want a break from the parent life, it’s okay to want to put yourself first sometimes. It’s okay to ask for help when you feel like you can’t handle it... On such days, we’d love for you to come back and read this, because YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB, and no one has the right to tell you otherwise!